I am the old raggedy bear...sure I bring comfort when they're scared, hurt, need a shot...but just not as exciting as the new Christmas toy(daddy)....
Yes, I am a little envious! The minute my husband walks in the house they run and trip over things to get to him!....why do they trip over things? maybe I need to get rid of the clutter...well that's not the point! the point is he is their superhero, you know the one with the shiny belt and a cape...the "fun" parent!...I work "undercover". I wipe noses, hug and kiss when they get a "boo-boo"(actually Sadie calls me "mommy boo-boo gone":)...feed them, bathe them, dress them, teach them...He comes home and it's forts, jumping, ball throwing(in the house...ugh..)
Take this morning for example, Sadie was not listening and started screaming about something...now the rule is(my rule not daddy's of course!)..you yell=things get taken away=simple. So she screamed and I took her lady bug pillow pet away(current fave)...she ran up to me and actually HIT my hand!...now we do not hit, spank...non of the physical discipline..so it's not like she models after us. I immediately put her in time out and took her fave bear away too, got in her face and told her firmly"we DO NOT hit anyone EVER!" I went in the kitchen (to give myself a time out, really mad right now and like I said I don't believe in spanking and I'm trying to keep it that way..) DADDY...on his imaginary white horse as a proper knight in shining armor would, goes to"rescue" her, starts playing with her IN THE TIME OUT!....I know ...you all want to yell out WTF!!as you should..just make sure the kids are not in the room...
After having 2 children with him I have learned that he does not and will not discipline. Doesn't know how aka doesn't want to, wants to just have NICE time with his kids as opposed to me who is just tickled by the yelling, negotiating , punishing ...etc...WHAT?!?!...anywho.....So with that knowledge I will discipline my children and let HIM be the fun parent...fine...not fair..but FINE!..I have stopped asking him to do that now but PLEASE for the LOVE OF GOD....don't UNDO what I am trying to accomplish!...tired, pissed, I feel i have a pretty decent vocabulary and I don't think I'm a very vulgar person...but really.....WTF!!!!
And why does he feel the need to "rescue" her?!...where am I sending her?!...Guantanamo Bay?!?!...it's a rug by the front door and she needs to sit there for few min!!...I think she'll be ok!
Changes need to be made....
I KNOW this can't be just my issue...so let's hear it moms, and maybe especially moms of daughters...lets have these daddy's grow some serious balls( that's right, I said it!..it's been that kind of a day)...and stand up to those daughters!!....he certainly does not fold that fast when I try to have my way.......
oh daddy's...got to love'em.....and I do...truly love him with all my being...NEVER loved anyone like this....but there is days like this when I just want to....maybe....shake him a smidgen....
Yes, I am a little envious! The minute my husband walks in the house they run and trip over things to get to him!....why do they trip over things? maybe I need to get rid of the clutter...well that's not the point! the point is he is their superhero, you know the one with the shiny belt and a cape...the "fun" parent!...I work "undercover". I wipe noses, hug and kiss when they get a "boo-boo"(actually Sadie calls me "mommy boo-boo gone":)...feed them, bathe them, dress them, teach them...He comes home and it's forts, jumping, ball throwing(in the house...ugh..)
Take this morning for example, Sadie was not listening and started screaming about something...now the rule is(my rule not daddy's of course!)..you yell=things get taken away=simple. So she screamed and I took her lady bug pillow pet away(current fave)...she ran up to me and actually HIT my hand!...now we do not hit, spank...non of the physical discipline..so it's not like she models after us. I immediately put her in time out and took her fave bear away too, got in her face and told her firmly"we DO NOT hit anyone EVER!" I went in the kitchen (to give myself a time out, really mad right now and like I said I don't believe in spanking and I'm trying to keep it that way..) DADDY...on his imaginary white horse as a proper knight in shining armor would, goes to"rescue" her, starts playing with her IN THE TIME OUT!....I know ...you all want to yell out WTF!!as you should..just make sure the kids are not in the room...
After having 2 children with him I have learned that he does not and will not discipline. Doesn't know how aka doesn't want to, wants to just have NICE time with his kids as opposed to me who is just tickled by the yelling, negotiating , punishing ...etc...WHAT?!?!...anywho.....So with that knowledge I will discipline my children and let HIM be the fun parent...fine...not fair..but FINE!..I have stopped asking him to do that now but PLEASE for the LOVE OF GOD....don't UNDO what I am trying to accomplish!...tired, pissed, I feel i have a pretty decent vocabulary and I don't think I'm a very vulgar person...but really.....WTF!!!!
And why does he feel the need to "rescue" her?!...where am I sending her?!...Guantanamo Bay?!?!...it's a rug by the front door and she needs to sit there for few min!!...I think she'll be ok!
Changes need to be made....
I KNOW this can't be just my issue...so let's hear it moms, and maybe especially moms of daughters...lets have these daddy's grow some serious balls( that's right, I said it!..it's been that kind of a day)...and stand up to those daughters!!....he certainly does not fold that fast when I try to have my way.......
oh daddy's...got to love'em.....and I do...truly love him with all my being...NEVER loved anyone like this....but there is days like this when I just want to....maybe....shake him a smidgen....
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